The Romans used to say: Video meliora probaque deteriara sequo. I t means “I can see what I ought and ought not to do and I go and do the latter”. How many times has this been true for you? Nor is it only our actions which are often self destructive but our feelings and beliefs about ourselves too. Little if anything limits people’s achievement more than their own self doubts and these are often unfounded. Why do people defeat themselves in this way??
Why do some people always seem to be trying but never quite making it? Why do some people seem to have more crises than others? Why do some people always end up in bad relationships with violent or unreliable partners? Why do some people seem to have more accidents than most? Why so some seem to have all the bad luck and little or none of the good??
In the most conspicuous cases its not due to lack of intelligence, skill, will power or resources. If they had little intelligence they would be unlikely to try in the first place. No the reasons are more subtle than this.
As people develop, they begin to air for certain things in life and learn how to go about achieving them. Rarely, though, do they learn to control the subtle forces which undermine their efforts.
How often have you seen a glaring opportunity but avoided it, thinking, ‘If its that certain why haven’t others taken it up?’ Then it has ‘come up trumps’ and you have sworn you will not let the chance slip by again – but you have.
Ok. So we know what’s wrong, but what can we do about it? Does anyone have a say???
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